Category: Ground Zero

Too many betrayed partners find themselves apologising for imagined faults. You were the one betrayed, yet somehow you’re made to feel guilty and responsible. The awfulness of cheating doesn’t just stem from the shocking pain from the act of betrayal. It’s also the residual lying, deception and manipulation that creates a residual anger. In particular,…

Discovering that someone you love has been unfaithful is one of the most painful experiences you can face. The shock, confusion, and heartbreak can leave you feeling lost and unsure of what to do next. If you’re reading this, you may be grappling with the decision of whether and/or how to confront your partner about…

So you’ve just found out you’ve been cheated on. It’s a horrible place to be, and the next days will be tough. I’ve gone through it myself to know the bitter pain. Having heard from many folks about their experiences, I hope this might be a useful path out of the whirlpool to whoever is…

When you first get cheated on, your first instinct might be to confront the cheater. Why? How? Unfortunately, cheaters have a litany of excuses. Fortunately, they tend to fall into predictable categories. I list some of the common ones below and why they are immensely problematic. Hopefully, you can avoid being gaslit and dodge any…

When you first learn you’ve been cheated on, it’s like someone’s pulled the rug out from under your reality. One moment, you’re standing on solid ground; the next, you’re free-falling through questions you never thought you’d have to ask. When my cheating ex admitted to it, my mind went blank momentarily, then instinctively tried to…